How to control Anger by grace of Shirdi Saibaba

Sairam friends,

I get angry and i love Saint Shirdi Saibaba. I have been believing in saints, their teachings of love and peace. Me  along with my sai friends used to do some odd works in the saibaba temple in our home town for hours. One thing i have noticed is no matter how much we love saibaba or serve humanity in the name of shirdi saibaba,our own charecters remains the same.

Shirdi Saibabas grace to Control Anger
Shirdi Saibabas grace to Control Anger

The reason why sai devotees cannot change their bad habits :

We are smart. Yes we are. When we cannot give up having Non vegetarian foods, we happily have a reason to say “Saibaba used to cook Non veg food for his devotees who has them”

When we cannot control our anger, we simply say the facts from saibabas life time “Saibaba himself gets angry to his devotees at times”

Both are not true :

I shall explain  how Both these facts are untrue. See . Saibaba does cook non veg food in a pot and Veg food in a pot seperately for his devotees. At times saibaba even purposely asked his orthodox devotees to have non veg foods. This is just to test their Guru Bhakti. If the concerned devotee follows the words of the Guru even if he is not willing to do whats instructed to him.

Saibaba also has said “I live in every ant, insect, animal and human being, so respect everyone” . So if you see in this perspective, the animal being killed for food also has a sai soul in it. The antaryami Saibaba is indirectly harmed when we kill animals. So only for saibaba devotees who reason its ok to do what ever sai does, Please think hard and decide for yourself.

Grace of saibaba to reduce anger :

We are not speaking about controlling anger . Saibaba shows his anger outside to his devotees with red eyes only to pass on a certain message of love. Take the example of Megha. Megha is a orthodox Brahmin. He was told by his master to go to shirdi to take darshan of a Saint Saibaba who looks like a Muslim. Now Megha has a feeling if he should really bow to a muslim saint.

The moment Megha entered dwarakamai, Saibaba got enraged and asked Megha not to come to him as he considers himself as a high class brahmin where us Sai a low muslim. Thus saibaba through his anger has taught us to leave the indifferences we have in Caste, creed and religion and respect everyone with equal affection.

Why do we get anger :

Lets say am writing a article about shirdi saibaba in starsai and its over 3 in afternoon, If my mother calls me “Venkatramaaaaaaaa have lunch …have lunch” i get irritated and today i asked her” why you torchure me “. After the words came out i regretted for getting angry like this. Thats why i  wanted to write this article about How to reduce anger by grace of shirdi saibaba.

Now lets do the following :


When ever you get angry, Try hard to smile to yourself..Some kind of internal smile. This way we will be able to take positive side of what ever happens in the world which might other wise make us get angry.

For saibaba devotees :

Be silent :

Just one second try to think Nothing and be calm. Its not necessary to chant sai sai sai, if you wish you can do. All i request is Never react to whats happening that moment and be calm.

A moment of silence will help you understand the situation if the anger is necessary or not.

Anger is a crocodile in the river of happy Relationships :

You can live happily amoung your friends, family and office people. All you need to know is when ever Anger comes in you, you are eating away the past affection and care you showed on them.

Anger at times is expression of affection :

Once when i was a kid we went to a Hanuman temple . The temple is situated on a rock and we had to cross a small stream of river to reach there. My aunt was carrying her small baby and walked in the river. Suddenly she got slipped over the rocks and was about to drop the baby. By Hanumans grace nothing happened and we all were safe including the baby.

My uncle came near aunt and slapped her immediately asking if she doesnt know to carry the child properly. This hurted my aunt but otherwise its just an expression of the love my uncle had on his daughter.

Many times when our dear ones do something that harms themselves , we get angry on them. Though this anger has a positive side to it , as we can easily say “I only cared for you” , we must try to be soft in every situation possible.

When it comes to me , Pure devotion on Saint Shirdi Saibaba alone can help us control our anger. We dont have to do anything. The more you experience the Sai in you, the better human being you become.

Ok friends. .. Just because i write this dont think i can control my Anger. I am also like you trying to discover what our great Guru has left behind for us like gems scattered in ocean. Please read the Life of Shirdi Saibaba sai satcharitra and see incidents where sai got angry to his devotees. In every situation you can only see Love.

In love. Every thing is OK

Some tips to control you anger by Saibaba’s Grace :

Try to chant Sai sai sai but am sure its not easy to remember saibaba when you are emotionally hurted or harmed…so do as below…

1. Keep silence and never take the situation into your head and heart.

2.Don’t expect much . What ever happens , happens for good. At times you have express your opinion and rights to people. Try to do it with a Clear tone of voice . Theres a difference between anger and being bold

3. You will be surprised at times

I generally get angry for few things which happens against me and society . Couple of days back when i was in Saibaba temple in our home town , i was standing in middle of temple looking at a big saibaba statue over dhuni. Someone took his car very fastly in reverse and was about to Hit me. My friend called me for attention and i moved. I thanked saibaba for saving me on time. But i still wonder why i never got angry with the devotee who was so inhuman that he din’t even reacted as if he did a mistake. I myself went to him asked him to be careful.

There are many websites, doctors and experts advicing with great tips to reduce and control anger. Any non devotee of saibaba might name me crazy if they come across this article . They will ask how can devotion on Guru saibaba can help you reduce anger.

Ofcourse i am surprised too. I still get angry friends. What matters is when my heart is always remembering sai sai sai, sai is making me remain calm when he feels my anger is only going to spoil the situation.

So hope you understand.

We are whom we are. This is not a article to control your anger but to help you realize how deeply one can be devoted to his guru that he forgets to get angry.

Infact my friends asked me why i went and spoke to that devotee who was about to hit me with his car so politely and am supposed to shout at him so that he wont do this mistake of speeding in car in temple campus anymore. I wonder why. Its Sai who made me forget my basic nature. This is what saints can do. They let us be whom we are but they keeps our emotions in their control when ever necessary.

Sai, I am always greatful to you for making me a better human being. Atleast for few seconds. …

Om sainathaya namaha


104 thoughts on “How to control Anger by grace of Shirdi Saibaba”

  1. Hi All,

    Really thanks for you all for providing with the tips…I am kind of a person who is soft and sensitive in nature…..I will not get angry , but will take evrything to heart which in turn hurts me alot ..and I cannot hide my emotions,feelings in my heart everything would be refelcted in my eyes &face ….So being sensitive is my worste side….My mother-in-law used to hurt me by scloding my parents & me…..I used toget hurt alot and I cannot speak against her because I feellike hurting myself is 20times better than hurting others….But I try hiding from my husband but my face shows him asmy face becomes dull n small…..and he behaves rude at me instead of supporting me or consolling me…as why Im taking evrthing to heart and he says that what mother-in-law is doing is correct……..and he wants to accpt it…..and dont feel for it…..

    Yes I willdefinetly bare and will accept whatever my husband and mother in law behaving at me……
    But iam not able to hide my emotions..iam not able to stopmy tears in sielence…..inturn i was also getting hurt frommy husaband……My husband also behaving rude at me…….
    Iam really feeling scared………iam not able to find the way to be…..i cannot hurt others….i ambeing sielnt ….evenfor that iam suffering……
    I will try to practice what brothers & sisters mentioned above…

  2. sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram r=sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sairam sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram sai ram ..

  3. Saibeti, please dont take things to heart so deeply as ur MIL or hubby are not worth it…………………………….. while ur MIL talks ill about ur parents, u need to understand her capacity is only to hurt u, as u cant stop dogs barking so cant u stop her words……..just becoz she talks bad about ur parents, their respect will never come down. So please leave hurting urself, just try to be SELCETIVE HEARING. While MIL talks so, just keep urself dumb, and laugh inside ur heart that she is getting herself sinned by abusing ur godly parents.

    Now listen….. SAI wants u to be happy always, but ur MIL wants u to be unhappy by her rude talks…………so u decide here, if u r a real deovtee of SAI then go by his words n be HAPPY by laughing at ur MIL’s stupidness, in case u r devotee of ur MIL go by her desire n be unhappy.

  4. Om Sairam,
    Firstly, I have to thanks Ventraman sir for sharing us this valuable tips. I am also a Sai devotee and I love my saibabaji so much. I follow every advice and suggestion which my saibaba ji give to me and suggest me. I would say about me that I am very decent and nice girl and i have been well behaved with everyone. Normally, my nature is calm and quiet. But, the past few months I have got a bad habit in me. I got angry with my parents many times and stopped to talk them. It is because, my mother criticize me and behave me rudely. I knew very well inside I do wrong . but every time I realized deeply that my saibaba ji always see me what I have done what I think. My sai baba ji knows everything about me and definitely angry with me. And then I remember my saibaba ji words and saying that I should not be angry to anyone , no matter what other behave or say.
    After reading this, I got a good guidance and it’s helpful for change my mind.
    Om Sairam

  5. respected sir, thank you for this wonderful article which brought tears from my eyes. as i get angry for silly things and get hurted. by our s adguru’s grace i must also learn to control anger. i have read satcharita few times but after reading ur article i understood that reading simply is of no use we must understand the real values of it.

  6. Dear Sir,

    I too get the anger for every simple reason and shout on the persons, but later i feel and try to be calm when ever the situation arises.

    I thank you sir for the valuable tips given to come out of the anger.

    I came to know about this site through one of my friend Sri S Bangaru Raju, who is also one of the sai devotee and iam following this site.

    i once again thanks for sharing your thoughts and guiding the devotees.



  7. I have great respect for Sai, and i wish you the best in all your efforts for this beautiful piece of writing.

  8. I thank Ventraman ji from the bottom of my heart….for sharing such feeling significantly…I will try to follow…..everything..really valuable for everyone…Om Sai Ram….grace of shri sai baba shower on all of us….

  9. Hi All,

    I always thinks that Sai means Ayee (Mother) Baba means Father. He always protects us from each and every situation as even our own parents cant do. Baba always shows us a right path even if we have thorns in the way he protects as a mother. I never got a mother love by seeing others mothers i used to cry i am unlucky that i doesnt have a loving mother but now i never feel coz if any problem, happiness & joy everything if i got any prob i cry feel infront of baba i feel like very relief as some close relation is sharing my prob i dnt know whats the relation of me n baba i always feel baba as my freind, well wisher everything i cannot explain i love you baba………you are the one and everything for me

  10. Dear brother,
    I’ m So thankful to u dear brother …….becoz u gave me a big relief nd solution for my critical condition happening day by day…. I’ m having 2 wonderful daughters ….we all love sai baba soooooo much…..but my elder daughter z very smart but I’ m expecting more from her so daily I use to put more pressure in studies and extra talent shows…..If she won’ t I start beating her…..scolding using abusing language which makes her hurt lot…..really I want to control my anger but I can’t do that …..I surely try to do as u told ……Saibaba z in each nd everywhere nd I surely tell his blessing only makes me to read your article and I believe that it surely make me a human …….

    Sai…sai….sai…..jai sai appa…..thank u brother……..

  11. SAI is every where. sai loves his children. baba i am blessed that u r here for me and my family. just be there for us. baba bless my brother with happy and success ful life. baba i know mere bhai aur bhabhi ki shadi success ful hogi. . aur app mere mummy papa par koi aanch nahi ayegi .app whan ho unka dhyan rakhne ke liye. ho. baba bachpan se apka saath hai hamare saath. dont leave us all alone baba. mere pass sirf apka vishwas hai jo hamesha jeet ta hai. baba give us strength to walk on your foot prints. BABA APP MERE SAATH HO. I CAN FEEL U. I .C AN SEE U BABA . b


  12. OM SAI RAM

    u know that u r mine everything & y ur testing me like this……………………, i have surrender everyhting of mine is ur’s. than y my hushabd is so cured to me and my child. he says v are buden for him. u r my mother, father,friend,relatives. he makes fun of our relationship in front of other, he behave so hurshly in front of other baba. i too get angry, hw long to be clam and patient. he using such a vallgury language, i don’t undstand wt wrong with him. baba he listen to everone expect mine. wt sin i have done. pls vansh all mysin and pls take me with u. i don’t want like in this world. enough baba……………, nevr days i don’t have strength in physical and mental way.
    u know me better. i only trust u……….., give me strength to bare, if u want me stay here, wt ever the duty u have given me to do. till now i think its ur duty and iam baring it.
    i don’t have somuch blodness to end my life…., i workhard so much for family, they never realsize, they hurt me so much that sumtime i behave like mad. pls help me & my child baba .

  13. very well & so quick responding God of Gods my Saibaba…….baba pls do Bless me that I may perform ur Pooja with whole Heartedly……… I should always ve ur Darshan & chant ur naam smmarann & also sing ur glory
    leelas…..sai baba ammchaya jeebhevar tujach bhakti aso de re deva….

  14. baba u r great.. still i didnt visit shirdi, i dono wen i m going to visit.. i love u baba… can u say tips to avoid thought deviation

  15. baba I know u always with me n guiding me all the time but don’t let me hurt for long time .pls give the sense of thinking to my husband let him to understand me as fast as possible n let him come to me faster .sairam I love u baba

  16. Baba u know everything …..please baba dont hurt me again…………………please baba how can u bear somuch tears in my eyes……….please baba make my husband understand everything……………..please baba what do u want to do with me…please do soon……………love u baba…..take me to u……………………..

  17. Jai sai ram mere dwara ye artical pada gaya bahut accha laga or jaisa ki sri venkarraman dwara krod per controll karne ke upsy batai gai hai vo bilkul theek hai or ham manushyo dwara jo campare kiya jata hai ki non veg to sai baba bhe apne bhakto ko batate the to ye sir hamare dwra non veg na chod pane ka ak bahana hai jabki hamre dwara unke un updesho ko nahe samjha jata hai jo unhone kaha hai ki mai sabki ander vaas karta hu cahe vo koi bhe ho kher mai bhe ak gussela aadmi hu kinto mai bhe apne ko is burai se door karna cahata hu sai mujhe shakti dena ki mai isme safal ho pau thanks

  18. saibabaji pls help me to control my anger and not to hurt anyone.I wil try the above points to control my anger thank u sir

  19. om sai ram
    baba plsz help me to control my angery,and not to hurt any one .i will try to control my anger .
    baba u know every thing………please sai baba dont hurt me again ………….saibaba so much tears in eyes …… me out to grid my problems……………………please sai baba …………..sai baba u r my everything baba plsz… me in my love problem..and give me happiness

  20. Sir, I lost 7 jobs & faced overall more than 3 years jobless situation in 10 years of my carrier due to my anger & honesty. Recently I have visited shirdi for 3rd time. Can I request members plz pray for me so I can move with good professional carrier in spite of spoiling my carrier .in all the jobs my performance was extra ordinary. Plz pray for me.

  21. Dear sai u know my all desire.plz tell me the way path of my life.plz control my anger.
    baba i am too much tense. without u and ur blessing nothing to be possible. plz help me. every time my
    mind distrub.i am alone if i am ur child plz help me come soon.i love u baba.

  22. Om sai ram

    Sir ur article are so much use for me thank for u n baba I the person who very fast will get angry to my kids and husband but the moment I started to know about baba I am still trying to change my attiude and behaviour when ever I get angry I will quickly run to baba to control my anger or to say sorry to relized my anger sai help me everytime .Om sai ram

  23. Om sai ram.dear friends en life la nan kopa pattathu nala than en life ya tholachutu irukan.ippa en manasu fulla saibaba irukaru athanala nan romba santhosama irukan .really saibaba devotees ellaruma eppavum happy ya than irupanga.i love sai baba
    Enka village lium sekirama saibaba temple varanunu nan prayer pannikiran.sai ram sai nam.sai ram.sai baba enga family ya eppavum santhosama vachi irunka pa..kudiya sekiram nan unga holyplace ku vara enna bless pannunga..

  24. Baba help me i am in trouble. Forgive me if i had done anything wrong knowingly or unknowingly. All should be happy and no one should be troubled by me.

  25. Sairamji
    Thnku ji for bringing us more closer to sai ji.
    Tere phoolo se b pyaar tere kanto se b pyaar
    Jo b dena chaho mere sainath shirdi ke tarnhara tm duniya ke taranhara.

  26. Jai Sainath.

    I completely agree with Shri Venkatraman, we all. Saiji’s devotees should control our temper. As per my knowledge, we may control our temper through meditation even. Regular meditation will change the person completely, as he said, think before talk, control on irritation, to think calmly and act coolly.

    Saiji always shouted on badness, not on a human being in front of Him.

    Jai Sainath.

  27. How to control Anger, its very nicely written…In these times things have changed it is mother-in-law who has to bear all her daughter-in-laws behavior because son is completely under the tump of his wife. I have seen these
    D-I-L ill treating their M-I-L like a servant….and poor mother cannot even cry , to be angry she has no right.What can such mother DO. Just pray to Sai Baba for peace of mind.

  28. Saimaa u r my father &mother u r always with me no doubt.I realize
    U so many times.but still I m very confused about my husband .my daughter & my son.I don’t 9what to do in these situatios.but still I have Shraddha & saburi.DAT whatever u do or whatever u vl do it is Gus for all of us. On sai ram.

  29. Thank you for bringing up this article..i m studying for pg now two yrs my friend left me for another girl .he never cared for me always humiliated me almost all the time but I never said anything kept silent thinking that he will. Change someday but nothing happened and am left alone .i try to concentrate a lot on my studies but past still haunts my mind and I feel lost and defeated..plz help ..i would be highly thankful to Sai ram

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