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How to control Anger by grace of Shirdi Saibaba

Sairam friends,

I get angry and i love Saint Shirdi Saibaba. I have been believing in saints, their teachings of love and peace. Me  along with my sai friends used to do some odd works in the saibaba temple in our home town for hours. One thing i have noticed is no matter how much we love saibaba or serve humanity in the name of shirdi saibaba,our own charecters remains the same.

Shirdi Saibabas grace to Control Anger

Shirdi Saibabas grace to Control Anger

The reason why sai devotees cannot change their bad habits :

We are smart. Yes we are. When we cannot give up having Non vegetarian foods, we happily have a reason to say “Saibaba used to cook Non veg food for his devotees who has them”

When we cannot control our anger, we simply say the facts from saibabas life time “Saibaba himself gets angry to his devotees at times”

Both are not true :

I shall explain  how Both these facts are untrue. See . Saibaba does cook non veg food in a pot and Veg food in a pot seperately for his devotees. At times saibaba even purposely asked his orthodox devotees to have non veg foods. This is just to test their Guru Bhakti. If the concerned devotee follows the words of the Guru even if he is not willing to do whats instructed to him.

Saibaba also has said “I live in every ant, insect, animal and human being, so respect everyone” . So if you see in this perspective, the animal being killed for food also has a sai soul in it. The antaryami Saibaba is indirectly harmed when we kill animals. So only for saibaba devotees who reason its ok to do what ever sai does, Please think hard and decide for yourself.

Grace of saibaba to reduce anger :

We are not speaking about controlling anger . Saibaba shows his anger outside to his devotees with red eyes only to pass on a certain message of love. Take the example of Megha. Megha is a orthodox Brahmin. He was told by his master to go to shirdi to take darshan of a Saint Saibaba who looks like a Muslim. Now Megha has a feeling if he should really bow to a muslim saint.

The moment Megha entered dwarakamai, Saibaba got enraged and asked Megha not to come to him as he considers himself as a high class brahmin where us Sai a low muslim. Thus saibaba through his anger has taught us to leave the indifferences we have in Caste, creed and religion and respect everyone with equal affection.

Why do we get anger :

Lets say am writing a article about shirdi saibaba in starsai and its over 3 in afternoon, If my mother calls me “Venkatramaaaaaaaa have lunch …have lunch” i get irritated and today i asked her” why you torchure me “. After the words came out i regretted for getting angry like this. Thats why i  wanted to write this article about How to reduce anger by grace of shirdi saibaba.

Now lets do the following :

SMILE :

When ever you get angry, Try hard to smile to yourself..Some kind of internal smile. This way we will be able to take positive side of what ever happens in the world which might other wise make us get angry.

For saibaba devotees :

Be silent :

Just one second try to think Nothing and be calm. Its not necessary to chant sai sai sai, if you wish you can do. All i request is Never react to whats happening that moment and be calm.

A moment of silence will help you understand the situation if the anger is necessary or not.

Anger is a crocodile in the river of happy Relationships :

You can live happily amoung your friends, family and office people. All you need to know is when ever Anger comes in you, you are eating away the past affection and care you showed on them.

Anger at times is expression of affection :

Once when i was a kid we went to a Hanuman temple . The temple is situated on a rock and we had to cross a small stream of river to reach there. My aunt was carrying her small baby and walked in the river. Suddenly she got slipped over the rocks and was about to drop the baby. By Hanumans grace nothing happened and we all were safe including the baby.

My uncle came near aunt and slapped her immediately asking if she doesnt know to carry the child properly. This hurted my aunt but otherwise its just an expression of the love my uncle had on his daughter.

Many times when our dear ones do something that harms themselves , we get angry on them. Though this anger has a positive side to it , as we can easily say “I only cared for you” , we must try to be soft in every situation possible.

When it comes to me , Pure devotion on Saint Shirdi Saibaba alone can help us control our anger. We dont have to do anything. The more you experience the Sai in you, the better human being you become.

Ok friends. .. Just because i write this dont think i can control my Anger. I am also like you trying to discover what our great Guru has left behind for us like gems scattered in ocean. Please read the Life of Shirdi Saibaba sai satcharitra and see incidents where sai got angry to his devotees. In every situation you can only see Love.

In love. Every thing is OK

Some tips to control you anger by Saibaba’s Grace :

Try to chant Sai sai sai but am sure its not easy to remember saibaba when you are emotionally hurted or harmed…so do as below…

1. Keep silence and never take the situation into your head and heart.

2.Don’t expect much . What ever happens , happens for good. At times you have express your opinion and rights to people. Try to do it with a Clear tone of voice . Theres a difference between anger and being bold

3. You will be surprised at times

I generally get angry for few things which happens against me and society . Couple of days back when i was in Saibaba temple in our home town , i was standing in middle of temple looking at a big saibaba statue over dhuni. Someone took his car very fastly in reverse and was about to Hit me. My friend called me for attention and i moved. I thanked saibaba for saving me on time. But i still wonder why i never got angry with the devotee who was so inhuman that he din’t even reacted as if he did a mistake. I myself went to him asked him to be careful.

There are many websites, doctors and experts advicing with great tips to reduce and control anger. Any non devotee of saibaba might name me crazy if they come across this article . They will ask how can devotion on Guru saibaba can help you reduce anger.

Ofcourse i am surprised too. I still get angry friends. What matters is when my heart is always remembering sai sai sai, sai is making me remain calm when he feels my anger is only going to spoil the situation.

So hope you understand.

We are whom we are. This is not a article to control your anger but to help you realize how deeply one can be devoted to his guru that he forgets to get angry.

Infact my friends asked me why i went and spoke to that devotee who was about to hit me with his car so politely and am supposed to shout at him so that he wont do this mistake of speeding in car in temple campus anymore. I wonder why. Its Sai who made me forget my basic nature. This is what saints can do. They let us be whom we are but they keeps our emotions in their control when ever necessary.

Sai, I am always greatful to you for making me a better human being. Atleast for few seconds. …

Om sainathaya namaha

C.Venkatraman

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15 Comments

  1. superb.
    will treasure it and will try to implement it by baba’s grace

  2. Sairam Anna..

    Thank you for this wonderful write up.
    Its a timely write up for me.
    Yesterday evening in the office i finished my work and when i was about to leave my lead told me a small work.
    I was in so much of anger. I couldn’t control as i had to leave for class and i may go late.
    While going, on the way i felt like crying and telling to myself if i need such a job!!!
    But no options. I was in that anger that i wanted to break something, throw something.
    Then i went to take french class and returned home. i was a bit cool.
    Then i listened to Shej Arti and slept.

    Today morning i did meditation.
    As u said we should not take things to heart and head.
    But i did it which bothered me and my happiness.
    I felt as the whole day went wrong.
    Sai in me should help me to control my anger.

    Sai ki jai

  3. Sairam Venkatji

    Thankyou very much for the tips. I too get annoyed very fast and repent later

  4. Jai sai ram,

    Thanks for writing on how to control our angry

    When ever i use to get angry ,i was unable to control

    But i hope i may control my self

    Thank you.

  5. jai sai ram

    please give me suggestion

    how my mind will cam and quit and i will do my work quitly

  6. sairam hrudananda

    Every morning look at shirdi saibaba photo and talk to sai after a deep breath

    say all your feelings. by this say saibaba you wont show your frustration on any one or any issue the entire day and u will remember sai alone 24 by 7

    meaning to say ….when you have expectations worries of past and future mind doesnt get peace…so dont have expectations be free feel free in sai presence

    u will be fine

    hope it helps

    keep chanting sai sai sai

    venkat

  7. Sairam,

    Recently i started reading all ur articles and they were great.

    I too get angry with my mother-in-law, not only me many of our relatives are vexed up with her nature.

    And i am not knowing how to tackle her.

    there r many problems with her which r unexplainable.

    Tell me that how can i control for any worst situations also.

    Jai sairam

  8. sairam shirisha

    its not a easy task to love someone who hurts us .I also dont like few i come across in temple who hurt me. I asked my sai friend what to do. He said “for saibabas sake dont bother them” …the word “FOR SAIBABA’S SAKE” moved me because he means to say though people behave rude and hurt us , sai looks if we try to develop a balance of mind that we can never be harmed by their words.

    so try to think shes speaking to saibaba and sai is listening and taking away u r burdens. at times to make things clear explain her in a clear tone .

    Try to chant sai sai sai

    light lamps regularly in house and temple

    ur life will be peaceful
    since its personal issue i mailed u personaly also

    om sainathaya namaha

    venkat

  9. Sairam Venkatramanji,

    I have a very bad habit of showing my anger on my daughter. At times, when I feel that my situations in life does not change, unable to show my anger on anybody else, I scold my daughter.

    I think, sometimes, I show so much of patience towards others (eventhough I know that they are wrong); I am not able to do the same in case of my daughter. May be I get only her to show my anger….i repent very much later.

    Pl. suggest me how to control my anger in this case.

    Om Sai Naathaya Namah !

  10. Sairam,

    Thank u for ur adivce. I will try to follow these tips.

    Jai Sairam

  11. this article is really superb.its really helpful for me.

  12. i m very happy people love alot sai baba i m not devotee but i love sai and sai leela i really tell u ur article will help me alot sai bless u

  13. sairam

    wonderful. its truly written in sai satcharita that sai baba gives timely advice to his devotees through someone( his own devotees)
    GOD BLESS YOU

    sairam

  14. venkat raman anna thanks a lot for the sai service
    baba always blesses you and family..
    brother im a short tempered guy,after starting praying baba im slowly changing my attitude,,
    but any how my short temperment and instant decesions has made me lost few valuable things in my life..
    for which i really bothers a lot…hoping some day sai will give my lost things back..and gift his devotees heartfull devotion devotion towards him and makes us travel in his path..
    baba plz forgive me and guide all of us swamy..
    we need you swamy
    aumsairam
    bow to sri sai,peace to all

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