Sairam friends,
I am between some work but this thought keep coming to my mind and I felt like expressing it. People who are happy in their life hardly email or text me. Every week, someone will call me and say they are depressed. Some start to cry and I wonder what to do.
I receive these messages or calls while I am doing my work or when I am in roaming in the Saibaba temple here in Coimbatore. I spend the time while driving to speak to devotees as I feel it makes me use my time to say some good words to Sai Children.
Almost a month back, one of this girl said they are looking for alliance for her and as soon as I heard it, I said “Be careful”. Later, I thought I should have not said this because people see getting married as auspicious and there’s nothing to be careful about it. She’s one of the kindest human I have come across, and I pray Saibaba to bless her with good husband whenever I remember that I should have not replied her like a stupid. (Made this poster)
Probably, my mind is structured like this as most of the messages or emails I get are from those who are going through some issues in their relationships before getting married or after getting married. Some go through a divorce and some go through a prolonged struggle blaming each other.
I have listened to these stories for over a decade.
Praying for my Sister
Years back, when my Sister was doing her Ph.d in Germany, I was worried about her life due to some reason. I used to offer a yellow flower to Lord Lakshmi Narasimhar and prayed Sai everyday that my Sister should be blessed with a good husband. It was not easy. She went through some issues but eventually, she met someone good hearted.
I still remember the small Lakshmi Narasimhar statue in Shiva Vishnu temple in T-Nagar. Here’s where I was allowed to offer a yellow flower and ghee lamp every day. Years back, it was just a statue on the wall. Now, they have made a sannidhi for the same. In 2019, when I was in Chennai, I remembered good old days and went there to thank Lord Lakshmi Narasimha and sent a picture to my Sister.
I believe devotion can lead to meeting someone good. Show devotion on Sai or Goddess whom you love. You will be blessed with a good life.
In my case, I have realized helping me not get married was Saibaba’s way of protecting me. It took several years for me to realize this. I did had some dreams which hurt me deeply but that’s okay as long as I do not suffer beyond this.
When I thought of writing this?
Usually, people do not cry to me on call. This month, couple of girls spoke to me when they are going through problems in their relationship and said they are depressed. In one month 2 calls from 2 different cities. She told me about her problems. She cried on the call and told me that she wanted to end life. Well, these are not calls I encourage. Whenever I hear this, I tell them, even I wanted to die but I won’t. Because my Mom and Sister might need me for few more years. Similarly, your parents and dear one’s need you irrespective of how they treat you.
When I went to Saibaba temple, one of this servant maid told me, she bought some medicines in shop for Rs.10,000 and wanted me to return a few medicines back. She are some tasks Saibaba is giving me. I told her to bring the medicines and I shall walk to the shop and request them to return the medicines. Even doing a small favor to someone in need is worth it.
This made me feel that I should live. I am able to do small task for someone in need. he he.
Similarly, find what you could do for others. Do little things that makes them feel better. Say good words to people so that they feel better.
Whenever I see someone who’s hurt in their legs or arms, I ask them what happened. These are complete strangers I come across in Saibaba temple.(I would have seen them once in a while.) They tell me what happened to them. They tell me if they are getting well the following week. I tell them “You will be fine”. This makes them feel Saibaba cares for them and they will eventually be healed.
Life is worth living as long as you can say kind words to anyone whom you come across.
If you see our scriptures, it only tries to unite a husband and wife. The part which hurts is some stories which says a wife should tolerate whatever her husband does.
Spirituality unites husband and wife but nowadays most marriages break due to bad people
A lot might happen in relationship before you get married or after you are married. If you see there’s a way to fix things, always do it. If you see, there’s a mistake in you and your thought process, please change it. Do not be adamant in life.
One of my Sai friend in Belgium told me how much her Sister is doing to make her husband sign divorce. Men are suffering these days too because of some women who suddenly realize their marriage won’t work out any longer.
So, I stopped speaking only for women. In some cases, men are the one’s who’s suffering.
What do I mean by getting married someone bad?
Well, these are people who are greedy, have no family values and they behave like idiots. Basically, they are not normal people and their family also won’t be normal. I can say even in such cases, if either a husband or wife gets good advice, there are chances that they will change themselves a bit. Time is the healer and time changes people. So, even after some years, if they do not change, then, it’s better to keep away from them.
Patience matters in relationship
I have a Sai friend in Kolkata. She was not able to get visa processed to move and live with her husband in the US. I know her from 2019 I assume. From 2021, after my Father passed away, I kept away from many of my Sai friends and had no contacts with them. Recently, I emailed her. She has moved to the US and now has a baby girl.
I assume she has patience for 3-4 years for her prayers to be answered.
This is just an example. Sometimes, it takes time or it might never happen. But Saibaba will do what’s good for you.
I wrote this article as I want you to keep your mind light. Do not get depressed when things does not go the way you desire. Accept whatever happened and stay strong. Divert your mind on things which makes you feel good. A warning – Diverting your mind is not getting addicted to bad habits.
Just because your desire is not fulfilled, that should not be a reason for you to behave as you wish.
And you have to live.
I started writing this article as I felt people are getting depressed and face a few arguments in their family for various reasons.
1.Not getting the right match.
2.Parents not accepting the guy or girl you like.
3.Taking too much time for desire to get fulfilled.
4.Difficulties before after getting married.
I wrote because I want you to live. Maybe, you have your purpose to live irrespective of setbacks you have in your life.
I have done this work in StarSai for over 20 years. I have seen people coming out of bad times and bad years. Eventually, they live a decent life.
So, hold on.
Stay Strong.
You can email or message me from contact page.
Om Sai Ram
Venkat
Scenery and Status is a dialogue from the classic Movie (Citizen Kane, 1941)
Directed by and starring Orson Welles, Citizen Kane tells the life story of Charles Foster Kane, a wealthy newspaper tycoon modeled largely after William Randolph Hearst.
The narrative unfolds via newsreels and flashbacks through an investigator attempting to uncover the meaning behind Kane’s dying word: “Rosebud.” Despite amassing immense wealth, political sway, and physical monuments—such as his palatial estate, Xanadu—Kane dies alone.
The film explores how trauma, unbounded ambition, and an obsession with control drive a person to replace genuine, vulnerable human connection with superficial achievements.
Loving “On One’s Own Terms” Kane wanted affection, but only if he could dictate the rules and maintain control over his partner (as seen in his second marriage to Susan Alexander, whom he forced into an opera career she didn’t want).
Modern Parallel: Many relationship conflicts arise when one or both partners refuse to adapt or compromise. Expecting a spouse to fit a specific blueprint without accepting their individuality leads to resentment, emotional isolation, and breakdown.
End.
