I was really pained last night while I was in Shirdi Saibaba Temple. I wonder how Girls change their mind, loving a guy and moving away happily and then trying to pacify things. Its something happening with many girls around the world and they don’t care about the Emotions that goes in a Man’s heart. I have always wanted to write in Favor of women in StarSai especially because its only majority of girls suffer in our society.
Anyway, I care for all the girls I come across who are Sai devotees or other wise because
A women must make a good family for a Man to build a Good Nation
and it today’s society its Vice Versa.
I wish to say “Be true to your heart. Don’t do anything to please others . Take any decision based on what you believe will bring peace – to you and your parents ”
I came home very sad, Lit lamp though it was late night and prayed Saibaba to guide me in dream. I was totally confused.
Blessed with a Dream
I had a dream which I could not remember. Again, I slept and had the following dream..
“Do you love Sai baba?”
I reply “Yes its because of Baba i am leading my life and came forward to save you”
Then many people living in the area comes for help and we take the girl to hospital
Millions of Baby girls who were never born in India
Yesterday, I was reading a article by Carl Gierstorfer in CNN.com
Its about the problems faced by Indian girls in Villages of North and North east India. For hundreds of years, Traditional Indians were in favor of having a baby boy and not a girl. They felt its a blessing to have a baby boy as one can earn dowry and few other reasons. Earlier, people used to have many children and it was enough to maintain a balance in sex ratio.
The Past 3-4 decades, Due to advancement in Medical technology like ultrasound scan and limiting with one or two child, The sex ration has fallen to a very bad level. In some regions, there are only 800 women for every 1000 men.
Irrespective of ban in Scan to determine sex of a baby in womb, even now, It seems there are few who never bother the ban in Northern states.
Carl Gierstorfer says
“So day-by-day, thousands of parents circumvent rarely enforced laws and have their baby daughters aborted after an ultrasound scan has revealed the sex of the fetus. It is estimated that India has been losing up to 12 million baby girls over the last three decades.”
Now, the problem in Northern states is that hundreds of thousands of Men don’t get a bride to Marry. It has not stopped there. It seems some people act like agents and go to Villages in North East India and promise getting a Job for the girl or find them right match etc. Some even kidnap girls as little as 14 years of age or physically abuse them.
The parents of the girls are too poor and even police in this area doesn’t file their complaints.
There are no one to fight for the rights for these girls and their poor families in villages. Today many little girls life is in pain because of the so called tradition of favoring a Baby Boy for several decades. Imagine a girl kidnapped, physically abused and asked to remain a so called wife to multiple men. Its reality and its normal in few villages.
I came across this NGO who are working to help girls in villages in many parts of the world.
We are focusing more on the Indian Cities that we never know what’s happening in the Villages.
Child Marriage in India
India has the highest number of child brides in the world, although the incidence has been decreasing. Less girls are marrying before the age of 15 (from 23.5% to 18.2%), but rates of marriage have increased for girls between ages 15-18 (26.7% to 29.2%)[i]. Major factors perpetuating child marriage are economic considerations (poverty, marriage-related expenses, dowry), gender norms and expectations, concerns about girls’ safety and family honour, and a lack of educational opportunities for girls.
Shirdi Sai Baba has silently favoured baby girls
It was 1890. The town near Shirdi village Ahmednagar had a rumor spreading. Many used to say,
“There’s a fakir( saint) in Shirdi. If you go to him and get his blessings, You will be blessed with a Baby boy.
In fact that was fist small wave of Shirdi Sai baba’s popularity in near by villages. Everyone believed Sai’s blessings will give them Baby boy which was most favored by the husband and his family. It seems Men even marry second and third time, Just because their wife was not able to give birth to a baby boy.
When such men and women come to Sai wanting Baby Boy, Sai at times has ignored them saying “How can the coconut I give you bless you with baby boy?”
At times, Sai has blessed them and many have been happy about it as really it resulted in birth of Baby Boy.
While coming from Saibaba temple, I was wondering how being a Saint Sai himself favored Baby Boy and not girl. How can such a great Saint discriminate. While thinking about it, i could remember a incident during Sai’s life time.
Shirdi Sai Baba Silently favoring Baby Girls – First a Girl and then Boy
Sathe was blessed with a good bride and happily married. His father in law and mother in law prayed to Saibaba to bless their daughter with a baby boy. Sai blessed them. The first child born was a Baby girl but they accepted her happily.
After few days, They asked baba
“Baba, You assured us that a baby boy will be born”
Baba replied them “Yes your daughter will be blessed with a baby boy as I promised”
The second child was a Baby boy and they celebrated it happily.
Did you got the message?
Even today we are not able to explain some people that baby girl is worth as much as a baby boy. Sai din’t want to take the effort of explaining things and changing people as Sai never preaches. He worked on them internally.
When devotees ask for a baby boy, Sai at times has chosen to bless for a baby girl to be born first. They can’t ignore the baby girl as they will believe its born by grace of God and a Saint. Then when they really still need a baby boy, Sai has blessed them with a male child.
I have realized in various ways that Saints for see the future. Sai would have know this country needs more girls and did little he could. Even today, I know few families, in favor of Baby boy.
One of the priest used to tell me, a women was pregnant and kept coming to temple and told him, I wish Sai bless me with a Baby Boy. One day, Her husband came and said,She gave birth to a baby girl and Sai din’t fulfill their desires. They stopped coming to temple regularly as before. I wrote a article about it below…
One of the reason, I prefer to keep writing in StarSai.com though I make better earnings if I do such work in my commercial websites is because religion and faith has played a role in shape our culture.
We at times have taken wrong decisions based on our religion and faith system in the name of “Culturally acceptable” things.
First, We don’t want Baby Girls and killed Millions of them in the womb of their mother itself. Imagine a India with so many girls still living. I am sure, it would have been better. Now why suffer and physically abuse women when you can’t get a bride. Again we only ruin our culture leading to disaster.
Spread this message and let there me more pregnancy and child birth in our country without Discrimination.
Be it as Boy or Girl, accept your baby as Gift of God.
Babies bring happiness no matter what gender they belong to. Now and forever.
Am getting late for work
Baba, Show me a way.