Sairam friends,
One of the reason many people suffer in relationship is because they are so much addicted to someone. They are slave of someone’s presence in their life.
Remember, you should love truly with your heart and soul. You should to be the one who’s good to you. However, you should also learn to be detached from someone who doesn’t respect your feelings or your presence in their life. Such a relationship should not be broken gradually because even if you speak once to them, they will neither let you live your life nor they will understand your feelings.
All you must do is chop the relationship completely with people who hurt you without understanding that you are trying to be good to them.
Learn the Art of Detachment
Being “Detached” is essential ingridient for a peaceful life. There are girls who write me saying that can’t forget their Boyfriend and there are few guys who complain that their girl friend brokeup with them.
Well, its hard but you must learn to forgive them for giving you such a pain and move on with your life.
A funny agreement these days is that someone who can’t stay in relationship with you would say “Lets be good friends.”
Funniest of all is this
“I won’t marry until you marry”
“Even if I marry, I won’t have child until you have one”
I receive such crazy stories every other day and wonder what are these people up to?
This is poisonous.
If you find someone is not respecting you, keep away from them through all means.
Focus on learning, your career and your own life.
I have gone through a lot in my past. Now, when I see these girls married, I feel happy for them. I never once regret that they hurt me because they have choosen their life based on their mindset. But there are few girls I worry about. I ask myself if this girl left me only to marry such a guy?
So my desire is that even if someone hurts me, let them find a good life for themselves. Let them not fall for the wrong guy.
Similarly, If someone can’t marry you after years of relationship, break away from them and learn to be free. Thank Sai for helping you come out of such relationship before getting married. Why should you suffer unnecessarily with someone who doesn’t really loved you?
Believe that there are good people beyond the one whom you loved
The worst possible mistake people do is believing that they can’t live without someone. Its just your emotional belief. Use your brains and think twice? Is not God teaching you wisdom? Learn to break away from any relationship which gives you worries. There are wonderful people whom you come across in day to day life. Smile to them, speak few words to them and be relaxed.
Initially, it will be hard. Gradually you will learn the art of detachment.
To an extent, you must also have such a detacthment even with your husband/wife and children. Being too possessive about someone isn’t all that good.
Why do most parents disagree when their Son or Daughter likes somone from another caste or a different status? Beyond all other aspect, its their possessiveness towards their children. Not all kids can leave their love life for to satisfy their parents. So even if its your kids, in some issues, its better to be detached.
Then, imagine how important is it to be detached when it comes to your Boyfriend/Girl friend?
Try your best to save any good relationship but the other person must be deserving. If someone doesn’t deserve you, Sai has no reason to help you because Sai cares for your happiness.
One of my favourite sloka is “Skandha Guru Kavasam” of Lord Murugan. It speaks on detachment and how it helps one get closer to Murugan.
Yesturday, I had been to Marudha Malai Murugan temple and felt blissful. When ever I worshiop Lord Murugan, I feel free and relaxed.
I especially went to Marudhamalai as I always have habit of taking approval of Saibaba in Nagasai Mandir of Coimbatore and also Marudhamalai Murugan if I travel somewhere. This time, I am planning to travel to the U.S in August and hence I seeked Murugan’s approval and blessings to get U.S Visa, take my parents to the U.S and bring them safe.
Chanting Sai’s holy name helps if you wish to comeout of thoughts about someone.
Instead of being upset with what happened in the past, be thankful to yourself and Sai for you escaped someone who is not made for you. Focus on something that will assure you a better future.
I couldn’t sleep all night yesturday. So I never had any dreams. I am old enough to write often on relationship but when I see many young girls and guys suffer, I wish their mind gets some clarity when they read my experiences.
You must practice detachment.
Its an art.
Sai’s blessings are assured for those who can lead a detached life.
There is a small example
Saibaba mingled with people of Shirdi during his lifetime. Sai laughed and played with them. Sai took care of their families and wordily issues. But deep inside, Sai was in silent connection with almighty. Sai proved to be an incarnation by both living with people and also being connected with the almighty.
So love your dearones but don’t be too attached to them.
Eveyone will do things as per their desire. None will listen to you when you need them most. Such is the world and hence Sai wants you to be detached.
Om Sai Ram
Venkat
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