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Teasing and making fun of our friends, relatives and others – Am I right or wrong according to Sai?

Sairam friends,

The past few days I realized that am not able to keep my mouth shut and keep saying something which I don’t know is right or wrong according to Shirdi Saibaba.  Especially at work, I honestly think I am simply not able to be calm. Vaaya moditu iruka mudila Sai ! I keep teasing and making fun of my friends.  Sai is not against being humorous and teasing others. Sai himself has a very good sense of Humor which he has revealed to several devotees during his lifetime in Shirdi.

The below two articles are about how Sai plays with his ardent devotees

Vaikunta ekadasi and Kusha bhavs guru bhakti on saibaba

Shirdi Saibaba’s Sense of Humour

Recently, I started questioning myself if I will ever change myself and be calm and silent. Earlier, I used to do my work and even chant Gods and Saints’ names in mind. Nowadays, I rarely chant Gods/Saints name in mind at work. I do it once in a while when I realize that its better not to open mouth and remember Sai.

Yesterday, I teased someone and felt bad why I tease a girl who is not present around us. Maybe I must learn not to make fun of people whom I am not close to. We never know how they will take if they came to know we are making fun of them. It made me really upset all night. For 2 hours, I was sitting in front of my computer thinking if I did something wrong? Then I felt it’s OK I only said it as a joke and slept off.

I had a dream as if am holding dirty water in my mouth and running out of a school to spit it out.

I understood that I am a part of Sai’s School of Humanity and making fun of someone who is not close to us is not advisable. I told Saibaba to forgive me and give buddhi not to do it again for a lifetime.

Sai is really not against making fun and enjoying but we must never bad mouth on others. I mean speaking ill of others is really a sin.

There was a devotee in Shirdi who kept speaking ill of others. Sai took him near Lendi garden and showed him some pigs in the filth. Sai said “Did you see these pigs having filth? Such is your behavior when you speak ill of others.”

This incident is in Chapter 19 of Sri Sai Satcharitra – Click here and read the portion before last paragraph

Moral of the Story – Try your best never to speak ill of others. We can slightly make fun of but make sure we are certainly not speaking ill of others as a habit.

No one is perfect and we must take people for what they are. We all have silly and stupid qualities in us.

I was worried because I must make sure that trying to make fun, I must never hurt anyone. Not after so much of sufferings. What we speak for fun might unknowingly hurt others around us.

Teasing and making fun of our friends, relatives, and others – Am I right or wrong according to Sai?

So that’s what I keep asking. Maybe Sai is OK with me making fun but wants me to be careful.

I discovered that I like helping people launching their Startups and helping them to create companies and create more jobs. Maybe I must work on it and do little I can with the knowledge I have. I can learn a lot by helping other people grow.

As of now, my time is occupied with a full-time job. So maybe its something I plan to do in the future.

Am I boring you writing all about my stupidity? OK as a token of friendship, I share with you “Hugs”

Be good friends

Be good friends

Sai ki Jai

Venkat

Always in the holy feet of Shirdi Saibaba

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3 Comments

  • Yeah,am also thinking about it these days,sometimes i cannot stop myself scolding others but i wont get into their personals or talk about them unnecessarily ,the problem raises here is with the opposite person ,they keep on commenting me and finding faults…Baba please bless me with peace of mind and patience so that even though they comment i can keep myself quiet…..I learnt how to keep quiet during these days by your blessing,please give me the patience baba……..may u bless a ll the devotees with peace…
    sai baba ki jai

  • I agree that joking with someone is OK but making fun of someone is not, especially if that targeted person is not there. As they say, laughing with someone (because they get the joke without being hurt) is OK but laughing at someone may be not OK. The important thing is that you reflect on your behavior and modify it, that’s the point of life. We live and learn…all of us.

  • Hii venkat im frm goa aur main saibaba ki bahut badi bakt hu.main he nhi meri famoly nhi baba ko bahut manti hi.aur jub bhi aapka article padti hu muje bahut accha lagta hi,aur kuch nhi thank you

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